If you are going to help me...
6. Don't assume that your knowledge about me is more accurate than mine. You only know what I have told you. There is probably more to the story. If I feel safe, I may tell you more. If I feel judged, I will not.
7. I may be confused, but I am still the expert about me. Telling me what to do may not be the best way to help me.
8. Don't place me in a position of living up to your expectations. I have enough trouble with mine.
9. Please hear my feelings, not just my words - accept all of them. If you can't, how can I?
10. Don't save me. I must do it myself. I knew enough to ask for your help. Help me to better myself.