Loving a survivor
The single most important thing you bring to the equation is your love for the survivor. Never forget that.
“Most of all, reinforce that she is a great, brave person. A survivor. Tell her that you love her a lot. She needs to hear this repeatedly, because she firmly believes she's not good, from years of abuse. “
The Manual - The Significant Other's Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder by Jeff Vineburg